We spend so much time and give so much interest to learning about other people, whether it’s distant people we consider celebrities or our next door neighbor’s personal business. Modern culture seems to be obsessed with gaining knowledge about and reflecting on the reality that others live in, but I’m concerned that personal awareness has taken a backseat and our capacity to tend to our own wellbeing has decreased as a result. Simply put, we know too much about other people, and not enough about ourselves.
- What makes you happy?
- What brings a sense of fulfillment to your life?
- Is your relationship with God healthy?
- Are pains from your past contaminating your present?
- Why do you continue to make choices that you know are a detriment to you, or those you love?
- What are you doing with your life?
- Who are you honestly trying to satisfy with the decisions you make?
- How are you really doing?
Playing the movie and soundtrack of your life in your mind will help you to learn from your successes, your failures, your tendencies, your pit-falls, your preferences, and your habits! While you certainly can learn from other’s experiences, your growth depends on you giving attention to yourself and your needs!
YOU ARE WORTH YOUR ATTENTION! Your health, spiritual well-being, financial wellness, mental stability, emotional maturity, and every aspect of who you are deserves (and requires) your attention if you’re going to be WHOLE! Jesus asked the man in John 5 at the pool of Bethesda, “Wilt thou be made whole?”, and I like the NLT that says “Would you like to get well?” The man had been sick for 38 years and he told Jesus that he can’t get well because there were always people ahead of him. Instead of entertaining his response, Jesus told the man to get up, take up his mat, and walk. In other words, Jesus gave the man the option for wholeness, all he had to do was get up and do something!
Like the man at the pool, you have the option for wholeness! Wholeness is available to you! ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS GET UP AND DO SOMETHING!!!! Your wholeness is in your hands!
When you take the time to learn yourself, you can measure who you are today against who you were yesterday, versus comparing yourself to other people, who have their own journey of growth and development. It’s a problem if you can only feel good about yourself because you feel like you’re doing better than someone else. It’s also a problem when someone else doing well causes you to feel bad about who you are! Learn to feel good about yourself because you’re giving yourself the attention you require. In the word's of William Shakespeare, "to thine own self be true."